Anonymous asked: my girlfriends grandma died thursday and the funeral was this morning. shes ignored me since saturday night. i know shes going through a lot but isnt it wrong for her to just flat out ignore me? am i being too selfish? do you think shes mad at me that i didnt go with her to the funeral? weve been dating for 2 months and ive never met her family (she's met mine).
Whoa, never answered any sort of advice on my blog, but okay.
Was she close to her grandma? People grieve in completely different ways. Maybe she needs to be left alone during this time. Maybe she just needs to be with her family.
As far as are you being selfish, yes and no. It’s not wrong to be worried and slightly concerned that she hasn’t talked to you but just a heads up, 2 months in a relationship is almost nothing. If she asked you to go to the funeral with her and you didn’t, that’s a separate issue. If she didn’t, then don’t worry about it. She’s not in a state of mind to answer questions about you, so give her time until she can refocus.
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